The Company Holiday Party

There is a blurring of what is and is not appropriate during many office parties. People are loosening up and letting go. The bosses say they want you to have fun but take it from someone who has been to many office parties. Stay on the safe side. You are still at work.

The office party may be free flowing with holiday "spirits" but get drunk on your own time, away from the office. A drink or two, you know your limit, won't hurt but you don't really want to let your hair down all the way. Office relationships have been permanently damaged and people have lost their jobs for things they've said and done while supposedly "off the clock" at the office party. One of my clients once told me of an office party at which, an inebriated young man made a sexual overture toward the CEO's wife! OK, he was drunk. He didn't realize who she was. He didn't realize what he was doing and he probably wouldn't have done that if he were sober. He was still looking for a new job.

Dress appropriately; it's still work! It's nice to get dressed up but save the overtly sexy wear for truly social events. You don't want to be the object of unwelcome attention during the party and you don't want to be the source of all the gossip after.

If you are a manager, you have to go. It's unfortunate but all right for an employee to opt out but if you have supervisory responsibilities, you really should be there. You are, in effect, a host to the people you supervise but you never stop being the leader. You might relax a bit but remember that your behavior and demeanor should reflect the same quality of character you display while on the job. In fact, you still are on the job.

Avoid cliquish behavior. Of course it's natural to want to be with the people you know but you see them all the time. If you really want to spend time with your immediate co-workers, you should do this on your own. The office party is a great time to get to know others in the company a little better. It's also an opportunity to let people see who you are. Make a point of mingling, shaking hands and remembering names. You'll build allies throughout the organization who can make your life and your job easier in ways you cannot imagine.

If you are invited to be someone's guest or you are going to your spouses holiday party, the same rules apply but double. Your goal is to look good, be polite and stand quietly next to your spouse and let him or her make a good impression. You are not there to have a good ime; you are there to accompany the person you care about.

Make sure to extend your mingling to those high level managers and senior managers with whom you don't normally interact. The two most critical elements in getting promoted, getting better assignments and more challenging or interesting projects are having a higher level "sponsor"—that is someone who remembers you and thinks of you as they are discussing assignments and being a respected and well-liked person. The company party is a great time to make a positive impression.